Off The Data Provided

Living Together, Living Longer? Swedish Study Reveals Surprising Mortality Trends

This episode summarizes a Swedish longitudinal sibling-comparison study (https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10680-024-09722-6) showing that cohabiting people have mortality risks between single and married individuals, with differences growing with age.
Dr. Marcus C. Shepard discusses health benefits of partnership, implications for aging and COVID-19, and ideas for future research on cohabitation and community health.

Offline Love Wins: Why Meeting in Person Leads to Happier Couples

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard reviews a new multi-country study reported by the Institute for Family Studies showing that couples who met in person report higher relationship satisfaction and stronger experiences of intimacy, passion, and commitment than couples who met online (https://ifstudies.org/blog/couples-around-the-world-who-met-in-real-life-are-happier-than-those-who-met-online).
The episode discusses possible reasons—such as shared contexts, transparency, and selection criteria—offers practical advice for using dating apps (including setting non-negotiables and timelines), and explores limitations of the research.
The episode closes with an Ask Dr. Shepard segment advising a student on how to repair a strained relationship with a professor: request a meeting during office hours, document the conversation by email, and keep a respectful paper trail if problems continue.

Words That Matter: Decoding Language, Meaning & Miscommunication

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard explains how verbal communication creates meaning—covering symbols, arbitrariness, abstraction, ambiguity, brute vs. institutional facts, and how language evaluates and organizes experience.He outlines communication rules (regulative and constitutive), punctuation, totalizing, loaded language, and offers practical guidelines: use person-centered language, specify levels of abstraction, qualify generalizations, and own your feelings with I-statements.In Ask Dr. Shepard, he advises a listener who feels excluded to have one-on-one conversations using I-language to clarify feelings and consider hosting or re-engaging to repair friendships.

What Your Body Says: Mastering Nonverbal Communication

In this episode Dr. Marcus C. Shepard explores nonverbal communication—what it includes, how it interacts with words, and types like kinesics, haptics, proxemics, paralanguage, and environmental cues—plus practical guidelines for monitoring and interpreting nonverbals to avoid miscommunication.The episode closes with an Ask Dr. Shepard segment about ghosting, offering a respectful “pre-ghosting” message template and advice on how to respond (or not) when communication fades in dating.

The Sex Recession: Why Young Adults Are Becoming Less Intimate

Dr. Marcus C. Shepard examines the Institute for Family Studies article "The Sex Recession," (https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-sex-recession-the-share-of-americans-having-regular-sex-keeps-dropping) explaining how the share of Americans having regular sex has fallen from 55% in 1990 to 37% in 2024. The  decline is linked to fewer partnered adults, reduced face-to-face time, and shifting socialization driven by smartphones and digital media.
The episode explores causes like decreased in-person interaction, rising anxiety and depression among younger generations, and the role of the pandemic. Dr. Shepard emphasizes the importance of interpersonal communication skills and the social contexts that foster relationships.
Dr. Shepard closes with "Ask Dr. Shepard" where he offers practical tips for students looking to build social confidence and make new friends as the semester begins.

Emotional IQ, Dating Burnout, and How to Speak Your Feelings

Host Dr. Marcus C. Shepard breaks down what emotions are and how framing rules, feeling rules, surface acting, deep acting, emotional intelligence, and emotional competence shape the way we feel and express ourselves. He offers practical guidelines for owning feelings, using specific language, and creating a supportive climate for emotional conversations.The episode closes with an Ask Dr. Shepard segment on dating fatigue, offering concrete online-dating rules and strategies—like setting response limits, having a sell-by date for app conversations, and prioritizing assertive communication—to avoid feeling jaded and communicate more authentically.

"From Bad Friends to True Companions: A Deep Dive"

In this episode of Off the Data Provided, Dr. Marcus C. Shepard delves deep into the realm of modern friendships, exploring a compelling CNN article by Christian Rogers titled "Some of You Are Bad Friends, and That's Why You're Lonely" (https://www.cnn.com/2025/08/02/health/signs-you-are-a-bad-friend-wellness)  The discussion touches on the increasing challenges men face in forming friendships, the importance of the friendship formula - investment, emotional closeness, trust, and support - and the impact of societal norms and desire on interpersonal relationships.
Dr. Shepard also highlights personal anecdotes and insights into the dynamics of friendship and the significance of investing in meaningful connections amidst the sensationalism of media narratives and cultural shifts. Drawing on both professional perspective and personal experiences, this episode invites listeners to reflect on their own relationships and challenges them to foster genuine connections beyond superficial interactions.

Navigating Conflict with Supportive Communication Strategies

Join Dr. Marcus C. Shepard in an insightful episode of "Off the Data Provided" as we delve into the art of creating positive communication climates. Explore essential terms and concepts like confirmation and disconfirmation, defensive and supporting climates, and the role of conflict in communication. Discover valuable guidelines for nurturing healthy communication climates, ensuring your interactions foster understanding and connection.Stay tuned for the "Ask Dr. Shepard" segment, where Dr. Shepard addresses listener inquiries, providing practical advice for building relationships and improving communication in various contexts. Don't miss this enlightening discussion, designed to equip you with the tools for better interpersonal communication.

Friendship in Adulthood: Building Bonds Amidst Modern Hurdles

In this episode of "Off the Data Provided," host Dr. Marcus C. Shepard delves into the complexities of making, building, and maintaining friendships in adulthood. Exploring concepts like the seeds of connection and parasocial relationships, the discussion revisits key elements such as investment, emotional closeness, trust, support, and external pressures affecting modern friendships. With insights backed by studies and expert viewpoints, listeners are guided on ways to create meaningful bonds and overcome common hurdles in adult social life. Stay tuned for the "Ask Dr. Shepard" segment, offering advice on exiting the casual dating merry-go-round to find genuine connections.

Exploring Love Types in 'Materialist': Eros vs Pragma

In this episode of Off the Data Provided, Dr. Marcus C. Shepard dives into the intricate world of Celine Song's new film, "Materialist." Join us as we unravel the complexities of modern relationships through the lens of two love types: Eros and Pragma. Through engaging discussions, we explore the contrasts of romantic passion and the practicality of love.The conversation highlights how these dynamics play out in the lives of the film's protagonist, Lucy, and her entanglements with Harry and John. With a keen eye on the evolving dating economy, Dr. Shepard dissects how technology and personal preferences shape our pursuit of love.Tune in to also hear this week's "Ask Dr. Shepard" segment, where he offers advice on dealing with unsupportive friends in the realm of romantic relationships. Discover insights on blending love and logic in today's fast-paced dating landscape.